Why Asking for Help Might Just Be the Most Radical Act of Self-Belief You Ever Make

…and why it’s one of the first real signs you’re ready to change your life.

I’ve just finished reading some beautiful reflections from members of a community I deeply value; Beyond Connections. The current cohort is wrapping up, and as always, it’s left me with the humbling sense that being around people who genuinely see you, hold you and challenge you with love… is nothing short of transformational.

One post in particular stopped me. A man I admire; successful, kind, grounded and deeply respected, shared that he still finds it hard to ask for help. Still. After everything he’s achieved and all the ways he shows up for others.

And I couldn’t help but think… isn’t that true for so many of us?

We’re the ones others come to. We hold the space. We give the advice. We show up, instinctively and generously. But when it comes to our own needs, when something’s not working or we feel stuck or lost or afraid, our hand freezes halfway to the air.

Why?

Because asking for help often feels like some kind of failure. Or weakness. Or exposure.

Because we’ve been taught, quietly, thoroughly, repeatedly, that if we want to be worthy, we need to be fine. Capable. Unflappable. And if we’re not, we’d better at least look like we are.

Especially women.

So we become experts at coping. We become masters of managing everything but our own needs. And we do it so convincingly that even we forget there might be another way.

But there is.

And it’s not found in pushing through. It’s found in letting in.

Letting in support. Letting in care. Letting in truth.

Letting in someone who says, “I see you. You don’t have to do this alone. And by the way, you never did.”

That’s what I’ve found in the communities that hold me, like Beyond Connections, MindValley and the incredible women I coach all over the world. I witness the power of what happens when people stop pretending and start receiving. Not just information. But help. Real, grounding, honest support. The kind that says, “You matter. You’re not too much. You’re not too little. And I’ve got you.”

Because here’s what I’ve learned:
💬 Asking for help isn’t a weakness. It’s a declaration of worth.

It says, “I believe my needs matter.”
It says, “I trust myself enough to be seen.”
It says, “I’m ready to rise and I’m brave enough to reach.”

And that… that’s a turning point.

So if this is you; if you’re always the one holding it all together, if people around you would be shocked to know how tired you really are, how much you're carrying, then please hear this:

• You don’t need to do more.
• You need to ask for more.
• And allow yourself to receive more.

That might mean joining a community where you don’t have to explain yourself.
It might mean hiring a coach.
It might mean texting a friend and saying, “Can you just listen for a bit?”

It doesn’t matter how small the ask is.
What matters is that you’re asking.

That one act, one breath of truth, can be the beginning of a life that feels far more like yours.

So if you're standing at the edge of something that needs to change, and you don’t know where to start… start here:

💬 “I need help.”
💬 “I can’t do this alone anymore.”
💬 “I’m ready.”

And when you say it, say it like the most radical act of self-belief you’ve ever made.

Because it is.