Do you find yourself carrying the mental load—remembering birthdays, organizing schedules, planning events—while he just “helps out”?

Do you ever feel like his mother more than his partner?

Have you had to remind him multiple times to do something basic, like household chores, while he insists he "just forgot"?

Does he expect praise for doing household tasks that you’re simply expected to do?

Does he check out emotionally when hard conversations come up, leaving you to “deal with” things alone?

Do you feel pressure to keep the peace, avoid confrontation, or manage his moods more than he manages yours?

Do you do more of the parenting, even when you both work full-time?

Have you ever faked enthusiasm (or pleasure) in bed just to avoid his ego being bruised?

Does he get defensive when you bring up how much more you do for the household, rather than offering to change?

Have you had to shrink yourself—your opinions, needs, or desires—so he doesn’t feel uncomfortable or insecure?

Is he more interested in his pleasure than yours during sex?

Do you feel like you’re “nagging” when you ask him to do his fair share?

Has he dismissed or invalidated your emotions, telling you you’re "overreacting" or "too sensitive"?

Does he get angry or withdraw when you set boundaries?

Have you ever felt guilty for taking time for yourself because there’s always something left to do?

Do you feel exhausted, not just physically but mentally, from being the one who holds everything together?

Does he weaponize incompetence—acting like he “doesn’t know how” to do basic tasks so you’ll do them for him?

Do you find yourself making excuses for his behavior to friends or family?

Have you felt lonelier in your relationship than you ever did when single?

Do you ever think, If I stopped managing everything, would it all fall apart?